Thursday, May 2, 2013

Because I have daughters...

eyelid lift
Caps on teeth
Nose job
Tummy tuck

Breast implants


Which one?

Before labiaplasty
After



When is it too much? Eye lifts, capped teeth, nose job, breast implants, tummy tuck, skinny, and now labiaplasty? What are we as women doing to ourselves? I have daughters and a granddaughter- I think they're all beautiful. And, yet I have listened to my daughters talk about altering their bodies to look better.  It's not enough to be healthy. It's all about perfection. 

Did you grow up hearing any women say, “I am proud of my body”? I certainly didn’t.
The truth is that was and still is the state of our nation – even world. We’re bombarded with made-up images that tell us we have to look a certain way to have the life of our dreams. Everywhere we turn we see sex, youth, thin, tan.
Our magazine covers display false beauty and promote quick weight-loss. Our royalty (aka movie stars) have a team of people (stylists, make-up artists, hair designers) to guarantee they meet to the high standards and expectations of their glamorous life.
For me, I accept society’s model of beauty. I know when I walk into a grocery store I’m going to see an article about quick weight loss. I’m also going to see an article bashing a woman because she has cellulite. I know when I turn on the television I’m going to see a commercial for an anti-aging product or some advertisement sexualizing a woman’s body to sell their hamburger. Amber Krzys
I accept this as society’s reality…but I DO NOT accept it as my reality.
“As a child, I never heard one woman say to me, ‘I love my body’. Not my mother, my elder sister, my best friend. No one woman has ever said, ‘I am so proud of my body.’ So I make sure to say it to Mia, because a positive physical outlook has to start at an early age.” – Kate Winslet
What do you think?

6 comments:

Linda and Tyrel said...

LOVE THIS POST :)

Shelly said...

Thank you Linda! :) You are beautiful!

Barbara said...

I know a lot of women who thought it, including myself when I was young, but how could we say it, without sounding conceited? I guess as young mother's we were trying to teach humility, but instead we taught our daughters that they weren't enough, just they way they were. Remembering back, I thought we complimented you on everything, including your looks, intelligence, talent, goodness, etc.

The Mom said...

It is so true we are not taught to love our bodies. It's hard to like what we look like when we are bomb barded with what is not really real.

Shelly said...

Great comments- thank you! :)

Karen said...

I agree that we are not taught to love our bodies. Which is sad, considering all the marvelous things it can do! I look at Kimberlyn's joy in her body, she runs, climbs, cartwheels, dances, and so much more. I hope I can help her to hold onto that joy! (as well as continue to help my older daughters appreciate their bodies.

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